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Questions About Boni As An Author & Writer
Who are you and what do you do?
I am a teacher, an author and a creationist and I am passionate about the concept of conscious creation. Every single one of us on this planet has the ability to create a life we love. Every. Single. Person. It is my fervent desire to make this knowledge available to as many people as possible, so people may begin applying it and thus change their lives (and the world…because every single one of us affects the all).
What is your writing process—do you follow a regular routine?
I write like I do most things—when it feels good, I do it. Now this isn’t some slacker mentality, and I am disciplined. But I’m also flexible, and I give my body and the rest of my life equal say in how I spend my time. If it feels good and exciting to write, I write. If something else feels more exciting, I do that. Luckily, I am usually excited to write.
What motivates you to write?
Passion motivates me largely—I am passionate about this subject matter. Sometimes my compassion motivates me as well. When someone writes me with a heartbreaking situation, and I know I have the knowledge and the words to help them change it, I am motivated to write those words.
Do you ever suffer from writer’s block? If so, what do you do about it?
I really don’t. I believe in acting only when you are inspired to act, and the inspiration to write comes easily to me—probably because I give myself permission not to write whenever I don’t feel like it.
Do you have any advice for other writers?
My advice to other writers is, only write if you love writing and love what you write about. If you don’t, find something to do you can love. And beyond that my advice to writers is the same as my advice to anyone else—dream, flow energy, take action and pay attention to see how your worlds respond.
What’s a typical working day like for you?
A typical working day starts at 4 or 5 am. I love the wee morning hours, when the (local) world is asleep. I write until my husband wakes up and then we have breakfast together. I sometimes work out, shower and then get back to work.
When I’m in Colorado meetings, appointments, etc. break up my workday. I do my more creative work in the morning as opposed to answering emails, phone calls, etc. and I seldom work past three or four and never past five, if possible.
When and where do you write?
I write in my home offices largely, or on the plane (we fly back and forth between the Bahamas and Colorado roughly every two weeks). I am more creative in the Bahamas because there is less happening there—fewer friends, family and maintenance professionals (for health, etc.)
Do you set a daily writing goal?
No, I don’t. I am not a big believer in goals. They tend to have me focusing more on the end than the journey.
What is the hardest part of writing for you?
The hardest part is the time and details involved between finishing writing and having a book—the seemingly endless proofreading, formatting, proofreading the formatting, etc. I am always anxious to get back to the writing!
What’s the best thing about being an author?
The best thing about my being an author is when people tell me my work has affected their lives. There is no better feeling in the world.
When did you first consider yourself a writer?
I think that would be when I completed “The Map”. Although I had written a fair amount in the decades before that, and I blogged regularly, it wasn’t until I actually finished that book that I thought of myself as “a writer”.
Questions About “The Map” & Conscious Creation
What inspired you to write “The Map”?
Passion inspired me. We create our realities!!! That is such a profound and powerful truth, and yet almost no one is living their life in a way that is. I just had to write about it!
Someone looking at your life right now would see a fairytale filled with success, happiness and romance but that’s a far distance from were you started. What was your life like when you reached your lowest low?
My life has become a “dream come true” in every regard. I can honestly say I adore my life 99.99% of the time. But it wasn’t always this way. I very consciously created this life.
When I was at my lowest point, I had just made it though a difficult year emotionally. My father died. I had just divorced my husband of 16 years. My two sons moved in with their father and he immediately moved them out of state. My home was in the midst of foreclosure proceedings. I was investigating bankruptcy. I had no income, no job and I feared soon I’d have no home. Everything seemed to have fallen apart, and I had no clue how to put it all back together again. I felt like a failure, and I had little hope for a light-filled future. That was my lowest of lows.
You’ve said that you knew for years that you create your own reality yet your reality wasn’t ideal. What were you doing that kept you down?
I knew the concept that “we create our own reality”, but I wasn’t doing what it took to create what I wanted. I talked the talk, but didn’t walk the walk. My negative self (aka ego) was running the show. I was feeling “better than” others for “knowing the theory”, but I wasn’t getting real about taking responsibility for my reality. And my reality wasn’t changing.
When I stopped caring what other people thought, and just cared about how I felt, my world began to shift.
With all you were going through when did you realize had to take a new approach to your life?
One day I realized I had spent my entire day, morning, noon and night…afraid. I was afraid of the future. I was afraid they would repossess my car, my house, my clothing! I was afraid I would end up homeless—on the street, with a shopping cart filled with all my earthly possessions. And the worst of it all wasn’t even that I could be destitute…it was the fear. I hated being constantly afraid. It just felt so horrible to never be happy.
I decided, “Screw the fear!” I couldn’t possibly feel any worse that I had been up until that point. And the constant fear and worry wasn’t helping my life one iota. I made the choice then and there to be happy first—and to forget the fear because a) it wasn’t serving me and b) it felt horrible!
That choice “reset” my emotions and allowed me to create from a neutral position again. Choosing “happy first” allowed me to create my days unencumbered by the fear, which allowed my choices to begin to manifest.
From that point on, I spent just five or ten minutes each day deciding how I wanted my day to feel…by instructing my unseen friends and feeling that way so they knew what I meant.
Within weeks my life began to change…first I was offered a great job, which I turned down (without falling into fear). I was then made the offer again, on my terms, and I took it! I kept “ordering up my day” for a few minutes every morning, and within a few months I was offered raise! That raise was turned down by corporate…because, get this…I was too valuable to receive such a small raise, they wanted me to receive more!
I’m tellin’ you, this stuff works!!
Within a few more months, the president of the company I worked for offered me a job as a VP of a startup. And then the startup was handed over to me! I was the president of my own company…less than three years from my lowest low. That company cost me $50 to incorporate. And within six years I grew it into to a $5 million company.
You wrote “The Map To Our Responsive Universe – Where Dreams Really Do Come True” as a step-by-step guide on how to create our dreams whether we know what we want or now. Isn’t it important that we know what we want if we’re going to create it?
Actually, it’s better if you don’t know precisely what you want when you want to create something. Because if you get caught up in the “form” something takes, in what something “should” look like, you shut down thousands of ways that something could come to you faster, easier, and more elegantly than had you not had any idea of what it might look like in the first place.
What you do need to know, in order to create wonderful realities, is how you want to feel in that area of your life. So if you want more money, instead of trying to imagine a job or business, or profession that would make you rich, instead imagine the feelings you want to have when you are rich…financial security, abundance, prosperity, safety, freedom…to buy anything you desire, to travel, to hire helpers, to surround yourself with beauty, art, sensual and lovely things. Then begin to feel that way.
Notice these feelings have nothing to do with how you receive the money…only with having the money. It is the feeling of having money (or not having money) that will draw the money to you (or push it away from you.) If you can leave the doors open as to how it will arrive, it has many more possible avenues to arrive from. When you decide it must come one and only one way, you shut down a LOT of possible futures.
You also may end up creating the form of something, but not the essence that you truly wanted. You see this in the world with people who have money, but don’t feel secure, abundant, free, etc. You also see it with people who have created the spouse, or the job, or whatever, but aren’t happy with what they have.
You, personally, have followed “The Map” to create financial abundance, a deeply loving relationship and a healthier you. Did you do that all at once or is it important to focus on one area that we want to improve at a time?
Although I think it is easier to work on one major life dream at once, I do believe you can have lots of dreams “manifesting in the background”. I suggest you set intentions for every area of life (Core Intentions), and then setting intentions for what you are focused on manifesting right now (Immediate Intentions). It is the Immediate Intentions that you will spend your “magic time” working on clarifying your intentions, focusing energy and clearing your beliefs.
When you create one or two major things manifesting from your Immediate Intentions, you may then decide to tackle something else that would make your life even more amazing. And when everything you dreamed of has manifested, it’s time to dream some new dreams, and set some new intentions!
Someone who thinks they are a victim of circumstances may have a hard time believing that the reality of their life is something they created. How does The Map help them?
“The Map” won’t prove that we create our own realities. There are lots of books on quantum physics that prove the premise. “The Map” is for people who feel that the concept of “you create your own reality” rings true in their heart and mind, and they want to know how to do it.
It will help those people, who like me, once believed they were victims and created realities that made it look like they were victims. With “The Map” they will learn how to choose new beliefs, flow energy towards their dreams and thus create new realities.
One doesn’t have to believe it 100% to begin—one only needs to have a sincere desire to change and a willingness to do the work. And when their reality begins to change and shift because of what they have learned to do in “The Map,” it becomes really exciting! They begin strengthen their knowing that they are indeed, creating it all, and thus their power.
You say that our lives are a manifestation of our beliefs. How can we change a belief that has been ingrained in us since childhood?
Beliefs are not that hard to change. What is hard is getting someone to change his or her beliefs.
Most people don’t realize that beliefs literally keep you in the reality you are in. They don’t think beliefs are that important. The truth is, they are critically important.
People also don’t realize that changing beliefs is easy—and most don’t know how to discover what their beliefs are, let alone how to change them. I wrote “The Map” to be an easy, step by step guide for people to follow the entire process of conscious creation, including finding and changing beliefs.
Since you’ve figured out how to create your beautiful life what do you do when you have a bad day or experience?
When you stop putting out constricting energy (i.e. fear, scarcity, lack, anger, etc.) you stop creating bad experiences. That’s the way the universe works.
So, for the most part, I just don’t create much that I don’t like. I know it seems impossible, but it’s not. Even going to the dentist for a cleaning has become a beautiful experience (I actually wrote a blog post about this.)
However, I am human. And as long as we are human there will be some days that are better than others. Why? Well, we might get caught up temporarily in other people’s energy and create some things we don’t want. Or we may be stretching into a new dream, and find some challenges there.
When something unpleasant happens in my world, it really depends on whether it is a little or a big thing, as to how I handle it.
For the little things:
I remember how powerful I really am, and I remind myself I am creating it all.
I focus on what I do want and I feel gratitude for what I have. I mostly ignore the little annoying things. I give my power to what I want, not what I don’t want.
For the bigger things:
I allow myself the time and space to feel my feelings around it. You can’t get clear on anything regarding why you created the reality, until you are in a neutral emotional place. So I feel the anger, hurt, betrayal, disappointment, fear, whatever it might be.
Then I ask myself, “How did I create this?” And the answer is always found in “The Map”. Either I didn’t own my power (divinity), I wasn’t clear on the dream (intentions), I was flowing energy towards what I didn’t want (beliefs, fear, etc.), I wasn’t flowing energy towards what I did want, or I hadn’t taken action on the dream.
I correct what I discover, and move onto creating what I do want, rather than what I don’t.
What do you say to someone who is so steeped in negativity that they don’t believe that anything that do or don’t do will make a difference?
I don’t say anything to people like that. It’s not my job to change anyone’s mind about the nature of reality. They have unlimited time (lifetime after lifetime if they choose) to figure it out. And they will.
What I do when someone is in that space is imagine him or her surrounded by beautiful healing light. I imagine they find fulfillment and happiness. I acknowledge they have appeared in my life for a reason and I bless them and their path.
Although, again, my life has very few people in it with that type of outlook. The happier and more secure I am in my own power and knowing, the more and more I attract people of like mind, or at the very least, of an open mind.
Who inspires you and why? (1-3 people)
What I find most inspiring are certain types of people.
I am inspired by people who choose to be happy. You know the ones I mean…those who are just in love with life! Who walk around with a smile on their face, whether others are watching or not. People who just enjoy the heck out of every day, every experience, everything.
I am inspired by people who are passionate about what they love. For instance, my husband is an aviator—he has been flying nearly his entire life. And we find ourselves, quite naturally, around other pilots. Of course there are exceptions, but for the most part these people fly for the love of it. And they are truly passionate about flying. I love just being around the pure passion of their spirits!
I am also inspired by people who don’t care what other people think about them. I think this is an exceptionally wonderful trait. And one I wished more people had. Before I was as secure in my own passion, I would visit tiny, avant garde art galleries, just to see the weird and wonderful “art” some people showed.
Personally I thought much of the art itself was horrible, but I truly admired the artists’ ability to put it out there, on display, disregarding what others thought. Those trips would inspire me to head home to create, for the moment anyway, for the shear joy of it—without censoring my creativity for fear others wouldn’t accept it.
What reality are you working on creating now? (Optional question)
Well, I always have many pages of intentions! But they are not about things as much as they are about emotional states of being—happiness, safety, joy, trust, love, passion, hope, etc, for myself, my loved ones, my community and the world.
My biggest immediate intention right now is to positively impact as many people as possible with my work and my company, Inner Art.
How is The Map different from any other Law of Attraction book?
I think “The Map” is different from other law of attraction books in three important ways:
I have personally done this work in my own life. I came from a working class family with a background of pain and shame, like many people. But when I discovered that we create it all, I took my life apart, piece-by-piece, and created everything the way I wanted it. I have proven this works.
“The Map” breaks down the process, into small, simple steps. Do-able steps. With plenty of explanations and examples, so that people can truly be “guided” to create their dreams, instead of simply knowing it is possible.
Something else is different about this book…some say it is “imbued.” Others say I have created a “morphogenetic field.” I am not really sure why it is so different. I know I did ask for the assistance of my “unseen friends” every time I sat down to write. But something, according to its readers, does seem to be different.
And because of all of these reasons, people are creating some phenomenal realities.
What do you want to be remembered for?
Wow. Good question. I guess I would like to be remembered for reminding people of who they really are.
Who do you want to acknowledge in your journey?
Many people, entities and unseen friends have loved, healed, helped and guided me through the years.
Of course my wonderful husband, Richard, is a constant light on my path, my soul mate, true love and best friend, and who is also my biggest cheerleader.
My two sons, Brandon and Brett, to whom I am grateful for joining me this lifetime, gave me the opportunity to know what it means to love unconditionally.
The teachers I have worked with over the past 25 years have been numerous. But three among them have been solid and steadfast…with whom I work year after year. My dear friend, the entity Lazaris, channeled by Jach Pursel, provided the lion’s share of my healing and growing, especially early on, since 1990. I also have worked for many years with another channeled entity, Galexis, channeled by Ginger Chalford, as well as The Team, channeled by Jackie Salvitti, whom I continue to work with weekly.
And of course a huge debt of gratitude goes to my unseen friends, my Soul, my higher self (Irhana), my guides (Shaheba and Sebastian)…whose love, guidance, support and friendship have helped me weather many a storm and led me to many a glorious reality.