Who Judges Our “Highest Good”?

By Boni Lonnsburry


Dear Boni,

There is something I cannot understand about the Law of Attraction.

It is often said that God/the Universe/your Subconscious gives you what you focus on; without judging whether it is good for you or not.

But then on the other hand, it is also often said that you have to add, “for the highest good of all concerned.”

I have also heard it said that, “if it is not for your highest good, it will not happen.”

Okay, but if God/the Universe/your Subconscious does not judge what is right or wrong in giving you what you are focusing on, then who gets to decide what is or isn’t for your highest good?

I do hope you can help me with this.

Many thanks in advance and best regards,
Confused in Belgium


Dear Confused,

I understand your confusion! That would confuse anyone. And kudos to you for questioning what doesn’t seem to make sense.

I believe our universe does make sense—all of it. And wherever it doesn’t appear to just needs more clarification, information or understanding.

I think first, it is helpful to understand…

Who Does What

God, the universe and your subconscious are not one in the same, although many, in attempting to explain the nature of reality, have used them interchangeably.

Think of the universe as a computer. What you type into your keyboard (or put into the universe energetically) shows up on your screen (or in your world).

And extending the analogy, think of your subconscious as the software in your computer. As you change your software (your subconscious beliefs) you change what shows up on your screen (or in your world).

And think of God and Goddess as the manufacturer of the computer and software (creator of your universe). He and She can send updates (or miracles) to make your outcome even better than you thought possible.

Obviously the analogy only goes so far. But I hope this clarifies a bit for you, because it isn’t just that we create it all—it’s that we create it all and sometimes we receive unexpected and unasked for help (miracles).

I hope this clarifies the process a bit. And now, back to your question…

Who Judges Our Highest Good?

No one judges our highest good. I think “it won’t happen unless it’s for your highest good” is a copout. It’s very similar to “if it’s meant to be it will happen”.  I think it was a handy answer (for the tough questions that people didn’t know answers to) for a very long time. But we are evolving past that.

YOU create it all. Yes, you receive help. Yes, you can co-create with your unseen friends, but there is no one judging what you can have, or can’t have, or what is for your “highest good”.

There is a lot of misinformation out there. But you don’t have to let it in.

And as to the second part of your question…

Adding “For the Highest Good of All”

If you are acting and creating out of self-love, you cannot help but impact others positively, and you will be creating for “the highest good of all”. You see, we are all connected—each and every one of us, and each and every thing in the multiverse.

You cannot do something positive for yourself without affecting everything positively. It is impossible.

I suspect people started adding that phrase for the same reason I suggest adding “with harm to none” to your intentions (in the beginning)—to make certain any subconscious belief that hasn’t been discovered yet can’t sabotage an outcome.

If it feels good to you to add either phrase, then by all means do. But the bottom line is, you should feel good about your intentions. Listening to your own heart and mind is the most important thing of all.

I hope these answers bring some clarity for you. And please do keep on questioning what doesn’t make sense to you. When you become clear, your energy becomes more powerful, and your manifestations can be faster and easier than ever before.

In joyous creation,

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Boni Lonnsburry is the author of three books including The Map - To Our Responsive Universe, Where Dreams Really Do Come True and the founder of Creation School, a place to develop conscious creation skills into artistry.

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  1. Deborah Bailey

    Hi Boni,
    Important point about subconscious beliefs that can sabotage an outcome. There are times when I’ve been sure I knew what I wanted and was sure I’d cleaned out all the old gunk. Then something happens and shows me that I still have a few limiting beliefs influencing my thoughts and actions. It’s a constant learning experience. Thanks for sharing this.

    • Boni


      You’ve got that right! A constant learning process. But once we know what to do when we hit roadblocks it gets easier and more fun…especially as we watch our world respond.

      Thanks for the comments!


  2. Kendall F. Person, thepublicblogger

    I love that. “If you are acting and creating out of self-love, you cannot help but impact others positively, and you will be creating for “the highest good of all”.” Just live your right in a impactful, respectful manner and good will come of it. Great post. Thank you for sharing.

    • Boni

      Hi Kendall,

      Thank you for your kind words! And thanks for stopping by…:)


  3. Jewell Pountney

    Thank you, Boni, for that clarification. The computer analogy is great. You explained the connections well. I really appreciate it.

    • Boni

      Hi Jewell,

      Thank you so much! I’m happy my words helped add clarity.



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