Posts on "Relationships"

How to Work with an Accountability Partner

How to Work with an Accountability Partner

When my life was a living hell, my motivation to do the work was ending the pain—the pain of scarcity, the pain of confusion, the pain of disappointment. When I did “the work” my life changed. That was motivation enough. But for many people, motivation is tough to maintain—especially if life is going okay—not great, […]

Did I Create the Atrocities in the World?

Did I Create the Atrocities in the World?

  You “get it”—that you create it all. You’re super excited. Why, there are no limits to what you can create—to what you can impact! You wonder, “Just how far does my power reach?” And then you remember all the horrible realities that have manifested on this planet—and you think, “Did I create that?” It’s […]

Did I Create the Death of My Loved One?

Did I Create the Death of My Loved One?

Dear Boni, My stepfather passed away last week. I miss him very much. I’ve been reading about taking full responsibility for every aspect of my life. To me this means I’m responsible for (or had a part to play in) him getting cancer and the timing of his death. I’m struggling with feelings of guilt […]

Why Children “Create” Abusive Lives

Why Children “Create” Abusive Lives

Dear Boni, Please explain to me how I could have possibly created being born into a family that suffered with addiction and were both violent and abusive? I didn’t have beliefs or thoughts prior to all of this. Instead, my beliefs were formed because of this. We are born with a blank, or open, mind, […]

How Can I Get Him to Commit?

How Can I Get Him to Commit?

How Can I Get Him to Commit Dear Boni, There is a man in my life whom I adore, although he has some traits that I find troublesome—namely his lack of commitment. How do I get him to be more attracted to me and ultimately, commit to me? Signed, Unlucky in Love _____________________________ Dear Love, […]

About My Divorce

About My Divorce

I knew it would happen. Once I announced that my marriage had ended I knew there would be those who would be disappointed and disillusioned with my work (and me). I guess that’s one reason I waited until I was strong, and (mostly) healed to make the news public. Thankfully, my announcement brought mostly support. […]