Posts on "Relationships"

Did I Create the Death of My Loved One?

Did I Create the Death of My Loved One?

Dear Boni, My stepfather passed away last week. I miss him very much. I’ve been reading about taking full responsibility for every aspect of my life. To me this means I’m responsible for (or had a part to play in) him getting cancer and the timing of his death. I’m struggling with feelings of guilt […]

Why Children “Create” Abusive Lives

Why Children “Create” Abusive Lives

Dear Boni, Please explain to me how I could have possibly created being born into a family that suffered with addiction and were both violent and abusive? I didn’t have beliefs or thoughts prior to all of this. Instead, my beliefs were formed because of this. We are born with a blank, or open, mind, […]

How Can I Get Him to Commit?

How Can I Get Him to Commit?

How Can I Get Him to Commit Dear Boni, There is a man in my life whom I adore, although he has some traits that I find troublesome—namely his lack of commitment. How do I get him to be more attracted to me and ultimately, commit to me? Signed, Unlucky in Love _____________________________ Dear Love, […]

About My Divorce

About My Divorce

I knew it would happen. Once I announced that my marriage had ended I knew there would be those who would be disappointed and disillusioned with my work (and me). I guess that’s one reason I waited until I was strong, and (mostly) healed to make the news public. Thankfully, my announcement brought mostly support. […]

Are You Using Your Thoughts to Create Divorce?

Are You Using Your Thoughts to Create Divorce?

Thoughts are powerful. My friend Claire knows this firsthand. Claire was livid that her husband of 25 years was stingy to a fault and would help only with the bare minimum. He’d get up in the morning and make his side of the bed—leaving hers a mess. “Why can’t he do more?” she lamented. I […]

20 Action Steps to Attract the Love of Your Life!

20 Action Steps to Attract the Love of Your Life!

Attracting the love of your life is a dream of many. It was my dream, and it took many years for me to figure out how to create that love. But not a day goes by that I’m not grateful for the man who is now my husband. The good news is, it doesn’t have […]