How to Work with an Accountability Partner


By Boni Lonnsburry


When my life was a living hell, my motivation to do the work was ending the pain—the pain of scarcity, the pain of confusion, the pain of disappointment. When I did “the work” my life changed. That was motivation enough.

But for many people, motivation is tough to maintain—especially if life is going okay—not great, but okay. Having someone you’re accountable to can make the difference between doing the work, and not doing it, and the difference between an “okay” life and a spectacular one. Working with an accountability partner with whom you can share your successes and your thoughts is more fun, and sharing your failures with a good partner can help to diminish the critical self-talk and disappointment. When it comes to conscious creation, sharing the (sometimes lonely) journey is not only helpful but brings a sense of shared excitement to the work.

What’s the benefit?

You want to live a life you love; you know it’s possible. You also know you tend to be sidetracked by life—if you aren’t careful your dreams will sit on a shelf gathering dust while life passes you by—never getting any closer to the magical, fun, fulfilling, and abundant life you were born to live.

An accountability partner can help keep you on track, moving you forward, at a pace that works for you. An accountability partner holds you accountable to your commitment to yourself and your dream.

An accountability partner helps you become more conscious of your path, your plan, your forward movement (or lack thereof), and your successes and failures.

How does it work?

The process itself can be as formal or informal as you like. Here is one way it can work:

1. You choose someone to work with who has similar goals.

2. Together you set up a schedule for:

○  When you’ll meet.

○  Where you’ll meet. (The meetings can be in person, over the phone, via Skype or email.)

○  How long each meeting will last.

3.  Set up the ground rules for the meetings, such as:

○  An agreement to keep to the time commitment and stay focused.

○  An agreement that while personal/friendship conversations are great, they will take place before or after the meeting.

○  Bitching is prohibited. It won’t help and it will hurt both of you. When one has a challenging time of it, the other needs to hold strong the truth that you are both empowered reality creators. This doesn’t mean you can’t talk about things going wrong, but it means that particular conversation needs to move quickly into a conversation focused on coming up with a plan/solution.

○  If it doesn’t work out and one or the other decides not to continue, there will be no hard feelings. And maybe the solution will be to take a temporary break from the collaboration and the meetings rather than making the decision to discontinue the partnership altogether.

○  Taking a break is okay. Each creator needs to work at the pace that is right for them, and sometimes breaks are not only fruitful, they are necessary.

4. Make a commitment to yourself (i.e., regarding the work you want to accomplish by the next meeting) and share the extent of your commitment with your accountability partner.

5. Do the work.

6. Meet with your accountability partner and tell her/him about what you accomplished and if, when, and how “the work” has shown up in your reality, and vice-versa.

7. Remember, this arrangement is intended to enhance/improve your conscious creation. If it’s not doing so, end it.

Set your intentions

Your accountability partnership is like any other aspect of your life—it will work better when you set intentions for it. Here are some ideas:

•  I intend to find an accountability partner with ease and elegance—almost magically!

•  I intend to create an accountability partner I am compatible with, who helps me grow in positive and uplifting ways.

•  I intend to be serious and proactive about my commitment to consciously create my reality.

•  I intend to make my growth my #1 priority.

•  I intend to be a committed and effective accountability partner.

•  I intend to have fun and grow exponentially from my experiences with my accountability partner.

How to find a partner

There are as many ways to find an accountability partner as there are people. Here are a couple of places to start:

•  The Support page at Live a Life You Love. Email any of these folks—they’ve already raised their hands!

•  Post publicly at my Facebook Page or the closed group (you’ll have to join first) at Consciously Creating a Life You Love.

Things to keep in mind

•  You may choose to end your relationship with your accountability partner because it just isn’t working for you. Honor your needs. Do what you need to do to support yourself.

•  Partnering in this way is always a work in progress. Remember, even though it is a partnership, it’s first and foremost about you. If your life needs change, you owe it to both of you to speak up and adjust the plan.

•  There is only one way to judge whether this is working for you: Ask yourself, “Is this helping me to become a better conscious creator?”

Possible “commitments”

If you have questions on what to focus on during the meetings, here are some ideas:

•  Go through The Map, The Map Workbook, or The Map to Abundance

•  Share intentions, do one or more techniques and talk about the signs either of you have received since the last meeting.

•  Talk about one challenge that each of you is facing and together uncover and test for the underlying beliefs. If time allows, do the Belief Changing Meditation together.

•  Do one manifestation technique for you (together) and one for your partner (together). This is called co-creating!

•  Begin with reading your accountability partner intentions and end with the One-Minute Manifestor Technique.

The bottom line:

This is your journey and probably the most important work of your life. Treat it so. Don’t take the partnership or the work lightly. You owe it to yourself to get serious about conscious creation. The results will be worth it.

With so much love,

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Boni Lonnsburry is the author of three books including The Map - To Our Responsive Universe, Where Dreams Really Do Come True and the founder of Creation School, a place to develop conscious creation skills into artistry.






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