Would You Perform Your Own Brain Surgery? Letting go and letting the universe do its job!

By Boni Lonnsburry

Would you want to perform your own brain surgery? Would you try to do your own root canal? Would you prefer to land the next jet you fly on?

Of course not, unless you are a brain surgeon, endodontist or jet pilot. Why? Because they do it better. Chances are they do it a lot better.

So why do the job of the universe? Why decide how you want something to look, rather than allowing the universe to handle what it does best – handling the details.

Letting the universe handle the little things…

I attended a gift show with a friend a few summers back, to scout out cool gifts for one of my businesses. We got to the show and it was packed! I’ve never seen so many cars at this place! It was a 95+ degree day and the parking lot radiated heat. As I took in the situation, I decided I wanted to create a parking space close to the door.

Parking spaces are a fairly easy creation, and I’d become quite powerful in my ability to manifest them. Not a problem, I figured. Usually I would just do a quick visualization of my car pulling into an empty slot (with harm to none) and “voila!” it would appear. But that day, it just wasn’t happening. I wondered briefly why that was… then, figuring there must be a reason, let it go.

The further away from the door we drove, the more cars we saw. And still – no spaces! Finally, clear on the opposite side of the building… was a space. I grabbed it. I hadn’t received my parking space close to the building after all.

However, within a few feet we caught a shuttle to the main door, and on the way back, the shuttle driver dropped us off right next to my car – even better than a space close to the door. I did get what I wanted – not having to walk across a blazing parking lot. But it didn’t look like I thought it would.

Letting the universe handle the bigger things…

OK. That’s a small example. But how about this:

During the same year, my hours at work were cut from my job as a corporate VP of a small marketing company, from 40 to 12 hours a week! It was tempting to fall into self-pity, blame or fear about finances. It wasn’t easy to stay focused on what I really wanted – more autonomy, more money, more creativity and more hours to spend on my writing.

But I forced myself to practice feeling how I would feel when I received that reality. I reminded myself often that my reality was my choice, and this happening only meant change, and that better things were about to appear.

Within a week of being notified of the cutback, I picked up a year-long freelance job that paid me three times as much money as I was making, working from home on an easy project. I didn’t expect it to play out like that when I designed my dream – but I was getting exactly what I wanted.

Why does it work that way?

Some call it, “letting the universe handle the details”. Some call it “letting go and letting God”. The bottom line is, if we try and control the way things look, we end up doing ourselves more harm than good.

Why? This universe of free will operates very much like a computer. Energy in = reality out. If you put energy in for an end result, there could be thousands of possible routes to that. Usually the most direct (read fastest outcome) route is not one our logical mind would think of.

As in the examples above, what oftentimes seems like bad news is simply the most direct route to the thing we want. If we stay out of judgment, fear and other constrictive emotions, and focus on the essence, or the emotion of our desires (i.e. the way we want to feel), we always will be pleasantly surprised in the resourcefulness of the universe.

It’s not easy. We all have preconceived notions of how things should work out, how our dreams should manifest, what is supposed to happen when and how. We have beliefs that outline the only way things can happen. But those beliefs and ideas are slowing down what we desire and sometimes stopping it from happening at all.

It’s not the circumstances that bring good results to you. A good job doesn’t ensure you’ll be rich, secure and happy in that job. Your resonance determines whether you’ll be rich, secure and happy. A good job can be the detail the universe chooses, but so could a great investment paying off that frees you to open your own business, or a neighbor deciding to move toEurope and asking you to run her company.

If you send out pure energy of prosperity, security, ease, fun, etc. and let the universe decide how it arrives, you are opening every possible door that could bring you a reality that causes you to feel those emotions. If you have rigid ideas of how and when and whether you can have what you want, you are closing the possible avenues of its arrival, one by one.

Know you can have everything you desire. Know that it will take time, patience, knowledge, skill and healing to open all the doors of possibility. Trust the universe and your Higher Powers to take care of the details. They will – if you do your part and become crystal clear about how you want it to feel when it arrives and then, blissfully, let it go.

In joyful creation,



P.S. If you haven’t yet read The Map, or worked with The Map Workbook, consider picking up a copy today. The Map will take you step-by-step through the process of conscious creation–and life will never be the same.

But don’t take our word for it:

Amazon reviewer: “I have read Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting, The Secret and other books about creating and manifesting. I found myself in a “slump” and apparently manifested this book into my life pretty much the day it published. I purchased it and read it immediately! On my way to the dentist I did the “one minute manifestor”. The first sign happened upon entering the dentist office 10 minutes later, followed by three more an hour later and more everyday!

I know I’m on the right track now, thanks to The Map & Boni! My kids are reading it now and seeing results!

I highly recommend this book to beginners as well as to those seasoned creators who may be feeling like they hit a “slump” too.”



Boni Lonnsburry is the author of three books including The Map - To Our Responsive Universe, Where Dreams Really Do Come True and the founder of Creation School, a place to develop conscious creation skills into artistry.

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  1. Saresa

    So enlightening! I’ve been struggling with letting go & letting God or the Universe, but this article gave me a simple view of what that looks like & I’m going to try it!!!

  2. April

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful post. It provided me a clearer idea on exactly how to Surrender. I was introduced to this concept by listening to Esther Hicks, and it began to resonate mire with me after I began reading A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson. I was still having trouble putting it into practice. Your words however made it much easier to conceptualize and actually, well, put in to practice. “Know you can have everything you desire. Know that it will take time, patience, knowledge, skill and healing to open all the doors of possibility. Trust the universe and your Higher Powers to take care of the details. They will – if you do your part and become crystal clear about how you want it to feelwhen it arrives and then, blissfully, let it go.”

    I recently quit my job in the legal field due to the abusive & toxic culture of the firm I was working for. It was so bad that I quit without having anything lined up. I’m terrified, uncomfortable, and 100% happy about the decision to leave. I have been searching for clarity on how best to manifest a new, and fitting opportunity. Your post provided just the right amount of explanation on how to Surrender, and a great degree of comfort about my choice. I will let the Universe take over. I thank you again for your post.


  3. Robert

    Hi. Many years ago I went to Ireland for vacation. Every night there was a challenge finding a room to sleep. All the B&B’s were full.
    I decided if the Universe wanted me to sleep in my car, that’s what I would do. Then I saw a sign that said Room Available. I could hardly believe my luck!
    The owner of the house explained that No, his rooms were all taken, but he left his sign out so that tourists would stop and he could help them find a room!
    He made a call and then directed me to a particular neighbor’s home. It turned out to be a home where I had stopped earlier and had been turned away because every room was taken. It seemed a person was two hours late to claim their room and the owner did not want to wait longer to rent the room.
    I got a place to sleep that night and a lesson to trust the Universe to handle the details.

  4. Shai

    I have read this article and found it quite useful. I have been working on manifesting a relationship with a good man. The universe was giving (and is still) giving me all the right signs. And he showed up. I enjoy his company, we talk late into the evenings, I cant wait to hear from him but he didn’t show up the way I thought he would look. My preference is for tall, dark and handsome. What showed up was older and maybe not as handsome but he makes me feel special. I got what I asked for even though the package looked different. Boni, you are an inspiration! I read The Map everyday and especially when I get stuck. Thank you.

    • Boni

      Hi Shai,

      Thank you for your lovely comment. And good for you for looking past initial appearances to the substance of the man in your life. We all fall into the “he/she must look/be this way” initially. It is our “adolescent self” who is so caught up in appearances they’d trade anything for it. But our adult self knows better. It’s the essence of the relationship that counts–how that person makes us feel. I wouldn’t trade feeling loved, cherished, respected, honored and excited for all the good looks in the world.

      I’m really happy you’re happy Shai!


  5. Karl

    I love it! Thank you for reminding me to stay connected to the feelings of passionate, joy, and expectation.

    • Boni


      You are most welcome. Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to connect with us!


  6. Alicia

    Great article!I will put this into practice and come back later and let you know how things worked out for me.

    • Boni


      Thank you so much! And YES! Please do let us know how your creations are going!!