Gratitude – More Than a Technique

By Boni Lonnsburry


Gratitude is so over talked about, for many it has lost its meaning—and it’s ability to rock our lives.

Now understand—I’m not talking about some guilt-ridden credo of your mom’s—“Remember to say thank you to Grandma for your birthday gift.”

True gratitude is a deeply felt love and appreciation for something or someone in your life. And it can…


Think about it…our thoughts and feelings create our reality. Feeling good literally draws to you more things to feel good about.

And usually I’m all about focusing on the future—thinking and feeling about what your life will be like when you have the dream.

But gratitude is focusing on the past. As Lazaris* puts it, “Gratitude is the memory of your heart.”

So yeah, good feelings about the future or the past will generate more good realities. That’s the way our universe works.

BUT—gratitude has extra power

Gratitude is super-charged. Because when you feel gratitude about something in your life, be it your love life, financial life, your health, the earth, whatever—it is already IN your life. It’s already manifest.

That feel good energy acknowledges you have received this great gift. All of the hesitancy, disbelief, “will this ever happen?” energy that is within your dreams for the future is eliminated with gratitude.

Gratitude also strengthens the beliefs that you are the creator of your world, that your universe is benevolent and that good things come to you.

When you feel gratitude you are resonating pure, unadulterated joy, love and thankfulness. Gratitude may be the most powerful “technique” ever.

And there’s more…

Gratitude feels wonderful. And gratitude also connects you with the rest of the world in a way nothing else does. We are all one—and gratitude is a connecting energy.

Gratitude opens your heart and connects you to your Soul. Gratitude lifts you to a higher resonance. Gratitude makes you “more.”

If there were one and only one technique you could practice—choose gratitude.

And a little warning…

When you ignore good things happening in your world (i.e. don’t feel grateful) you are sending a signal to the universe: “Don’t send me more of this.”

Because emotion attracts. Positive emotion attracts. And negative emotion attracts. You’ve seen both in your life. But neutral emotion does nothing.

And if good things happen, and you ignore them…you, my friend, have missed a great opportunity to double that order. Think about it.

5 Ways to Allow Gratitude to Create Magic in Your Life:

Simply saying “thank you” isn’t quite the energy of gratitude I’m referring to here. These suggestions will help you take your gratitude from ho-hum to an art form:

1.  Make gratitude habitual.
Write in a journal, or in a gratitude document on your computer, do it in the shower or while getting dressed, but make time every single day, for counting your blessings.

2.  Make gratitude specific.
The more specific you are, the more the magic of gratitude will be present—why? Because you are feeling more of it—specificity deepens the gratitude.

Instead of, “I am grateful for my friend, who took the kids so I could get some rest,” think, or write, “I am so grateful for my friend Mary, who despite being crazy busy with her own three kids and running a part time business, was gracious and loving enough to take my kids so I could rest and heal my body from this cold. I felt renewed and rested and I just so appreciate and love her kindness, generosity and caring.”

3.  Spread it across your life.
Be grateful for everything.

Don’t stop with just being grateful for your kids, your partner, your home, and your job. Extend your gratitude to your body, your earth, your love, your being loved, your country, your abilities, the beauty around you, your favorite TV shows, your unseen friends, and keep going.

The more you are grateful for both the little and big things in every category possible, the more you will tend to feel gratitude all day long, and the more your life will change.

4.  Sometimes, take the time to savor gratitude.
I know your life is busy and this may be much easier said than done, but every so often, take ten to thirty minutes to just sit and feel grateful—deeply grateful.

No, life is not perfect, and never will be. But there are always things to feel grateful about. Gratitude is a spiritual experience more than a human one, and it will connect you more deeply to your Higher Self, Soul and other unseen friends.

5.    Be grateful in advance.
Once you have gratitude down, imagine wonderful things happening in the future, and you feeling immensely grateful for them. You don’t even have to know what they are—imagine yourself a year from now, or next week or tomorrow, sitting and thinking,

“Oh my gosh, this day/week/year has been amazing. I never could have imagined things turning out this wonderful…I am SO grateful.”

Yes, gratitude rocks! It is more than just an exercise. It is a way to create your reality and a way to deepen your spirituality. Be grateful for gratitude.

With love,


P.S. Because gratitude is such a powerful force, I have created a Gratitude Journal to help you make gratitude a part of your life. It is available here or on Amazon.

*More information about Lazaris can be found at


Boni Lonnsburry is the author of three books including The Map - To Our Responsive Universe, Where Dreams Really Do Come True and the founder of Creation School, a place to develop conscious creation skills into artistry.

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    Thank you thank you thank you Boni for this post of Gratitude – More Than a Technique. I really got inspired by this & I will start now to write Gratitude on daily basis . I really got the source to manifest my Dream of My Sis &a Jiju ( Shibadit ) togetherness forever soon. Thank you Boni once again .

  2. Anand Ramaswamy

    Hi Boni,
    I’m reading your book “The Map ” and I’m so addicted to it that I can’t put it down, it’s with me even at my work place !! I had a doubt abt the Gratitude Technique. I listed out the things that I am grateful for now and saved the file in my computer to the present date. I also listed out things that I am grateful for that I expect to happen in a future date, and I saved this file at that future date. You’ve mentioned that we should do this exercise daily. Do i create 2 separate files, one for the present and one for the future everyday, or.. ?

    Anand R.

    • Boni

      Hi Anand,

      Thank you for your kind words about The Map. You can do it on one file. It’s probably easier. Either way will work. It’s really about feeling it more than anything!


  3. Smith

    I am listening to your audio book “The Map”…over, and over, and over…I think I will begin to feel, and live, and love, and consciously create again, TODAY. I am so extremely grateful you choose to share your gift with me. Thank you so very much.

    • Boni

      Thank you SO much for your kind words, Smith. I truly appreciate your taking the time to let me know.


  4. Maria David

    Dear Boni,
    Am so grateful to my friend for introducing you to me. Your posts are so inspiring. Just reading this one on gratitude brought such powerful feelings of gratitude within me. Thank you for once again reminding us to be grateful for everything in our lives.

  5. Ailsa

    Hi, Boni,
    Thank you for being an inspiration. I so enjoy reading your messages. I always feel happier after reading them. Thank you for caring and sharing.
    I am truly grateful for finding your site when I really needed.

    • Boni

      Hi Ailsa,

      Thank you for your very kind words. It means a great deal to me to have positive impact. I love to remind people how truly powerful they are and how amazing this universe is. Thanks for taking the time to let me know.


  6. Marcia

    Thank you, Boni, for this blog today. I have been struggling lately, and this is a wake-up call, a gentle reminder to have an attitude of gratitude.

    • Boni

      You’re welcome Marcia. We all struggle from time to time. And gratitude can always bring us back “home.” I’m happy this helped. xo Boni

  7. Peter Whiting

    Thanks so much Boni, for your books, your blog and your regular emails. Especially the emails I receive seem as if they are talking directly to me. They seem to come at the right time and tell me exactly what I need to here.

    Please keep it up. I’m so grateful for what you’re doing!

    All the best,

    • Boni

      Hi Peter,

      Thanks so much for taking the time to comment. I’m so happy that you are finding the work valuable. I’d like to take credit for the emails…but I think your unseen friends just tell me what to say. :)



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